Forget the good old days of meeting someone in a bar and embarking on a modern 'courtship'. As anyone who has attempted to find love in 2018 knows only too well, modern dating is an absolute minefield.
First you need to learn to navigate various dating apps (Bumble, Chappy, Happn, Tinder, to name but a few) and labour over the perfect profile picture and bio, then you need to pique a potential partner's interest with a killer opening line... and that's all before you've even met.
After a potentially awkward date, one must sit and await their fate. Throw into the mix a plethora of differing ways of being rejected and it's enough to crave celibacy for the rest of your days.
And while you've probably heard of - or actually *been* - ghosted, there's a whole host of new dating terms to get to grips with.
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Want to be in the know for 2019? Of course you do.
We've enlisted Dating Trends expert, Eugénie Legendre from the dating app happn, as well as Dennie Smith, dating expert and founder of a new online dating service called Old Style Dating, to reveal the new dating trends you need to know for navigating dating this year.
So you and that one special someone ended things because “it’s not you, it’s me” or maybe you didn’t, it might have been left a bit unclear and you aren’t sure if it’s on or off. Either way, you have noticed that while you are off enjoying the single life and posting on your social media, that person continuously likes all your photos and spies on all of your Instagram stories, just so you know that they’re still around and thinking about you and leaving you wondering, are we or aren’t we? If someone is not quite in your life and not quite entirely removed, then it is likely you are being orbited.
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The horrid trend of pocketing is on the rise and you don’t want to be the one whose been stuffed into a pocket by someone you really thought a relationship was growing with. If you aren’t being introduced to his or her friends and family within months of spending time together, then it might be time to open your eyes because you have been pocketed. A pocket-er is only ever available when they want to hang out or whenever their schedules are clear of any public encounters. Make sure you are always with someone who is excited to show off you as new arm candy!
So you have been seeing someone for quite some time and want to have a little extra security, just in case. You start getting a little friendlier with someone else, so you have something to fall back on if it all goes wrong. If you are guilty of this then you are officially cookie jarring. Give yourself time to get to know someone without the influence of anyone else and if things just don’t work out, then that’s okay – trying to understand why and learning from it could give you valuable insight into what you are looking for in the next potential candidate for your affection.
Finally, you got that date you have been dreaming about and it’s going well! You hang out a little more and really start to get to know each other. But wait - all of a sudden they’ve gone?! You haven’t heard from them in days or seen them in quite some time. They disappeared with no explanation and you’re left shattered and confused about what went wrong. Thankfully, your friends finally pull you off the couch and clean that chocolate ice cream off your face and get you to enjoy a night out. But then it all goes full circle when that person you thought you finally didn’t care about anymore appears and acts as if nothing ever happened?! This right here is what we call a 'prowler'; toying around with people’s emotions, so keen to hunt you down one minute but then there’s no trace of them the next. The prowler is always more hassle and hurt than they are worth.
This term denotes being someone's guilty secret with no introductions to friends or family. Awks. "It's like they are ashamed of you or hiding you," says Dennie. "It's also a real indicator of a manipulator and someone who wants to end up controlling your activity," said Dennie.
While ghosting describes someone who suddenly disappears off the face of the earth with no explanation, 'zombie-ing' is the act of suddenly re-appearing and acting as if nothing has happened.
Ever have the feeling the person you're dating is also dating? Welcome to benching. "Benching is when you are clearly someone's Plan B or C while they clearly shop around for a better 'deal'," Dennie said.
Is there anything more infuriating than being on a date with someone who is paying more attention to their phone? You're officially being side-barred. "This is when you're on a date and your partner is constantly on or distracted by their phone, unable to be completely present with you," explains Dennie.
While 'ghosts' vanish from the face of the earth, perhaps more infuriating is a 'haunter', who clearly spies on you via social media without actually making any direct . Boo.
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