Over the weekend it emerged that comedian Seann Walsh and his Strictly professional dance partner, Katya Jones, were pictured kissing in public, despite both having long-term partners.
Out for a drink together on his girlfriend Rebecca Humphries’s birthday, it seems that this was quite rightly the final relationship straw for her.
Releasing the most empowered statement on Twitter, Rebecca refers to ongoing gaslighting behaviour from Seann. Apparently calling her a ‘psycho’ when she challenged previous similar situations, Rebecca is making a stand and reminding women worldwide that this pattern is far from OK. Ending the relationship with her head held high and dignity shining bright, Rebecca openly notes that “he has done this countless times… when I’ve questioned his inappropriate, hurtful behaviour”.
Beginning her statement with, “my name is Rebecca Humphries and I am not a victim”, the actress immediately won rapturous respect from men and women on social media alike. Addressing the ongoing gossip, and providing kick-ass inspiration in the process, Rebecca urges us to “believe in yourself and your instincts”.
Explaining that she was on her own at home when Seann texted her to say himself and Katya were going out for a drink, she told him “not for the first time, that his actions over the past three weeks had led me to believe something inappropriate was going on”. Safe to say, the fact that the evening in question was also Rebecca’s birthday has been infuriating us all even more.
Responding with those aforementioned gaslighting remarks deflecting from his own bad behaviour, Seann allegedly retorted with “aggressively and repeatedly” calling Rebecca a “psycho/ nuts/ mental”.
And now Seann has spoken out on her post for the first time. Speaking to Zoe Ball, he said: “First of all I would rather not be having to address this publicly but I feel like I have to.
“I made a mistake which I am very sorry for, I’m sorry for the hurt I caused, you never think about he extent of the damage you are going to do in the mistake that you made.
“I am not perfect, far from it. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, that doesn’t mean I wanted it to end the way it finally did.
“I am very sorry for that. It is also important for me to say, the people who know me the most, who love me, know I am not the person I am being portrayed as.
“I’m still sorry for what I did but it's very important for me to get that out there.”
Twitter was hugely unimpressed with Seann's statement; plenty of people took to social media to share their support for Rebecca.
One user wrote: "I feel so desperately frustrated & sad for @Beckshumps having just watched the ‘apology’ that @seannwalsh gave. NO relationship is perfect, it takes kindness, consideration, communication &understanding. But most of all please have the decency to SAY her name? Apologise to her."
Another simply branded him a 'd**k'. Whilst she didn't respond to any of the comments, Rebecca did show her support to her fans by liking a few of them.
Since posting her articulate and powerful words on social media earlier this week, followers have responded with comments such as “good on you for speaking out and giving others strength in the process” and “you are beyond brave and dignified”. Plus, organisations like Scottish Women’s Aid have used Rebecca’s statement to highlight their Domestic Abuse & Forced Marriage helpline.
A relationship record which will sadly resonate far and wide, the calling out of this unreasonable behaviour is a huge step for women who may have experienced the same. Validating feelings which are very real, Rebecca reminds us that if you feel it, it is genuine. If you know it’s not right, call it out and react accordingly.
Whether you would forgive a drunken kiss or not, which quite frankly, I wouldn’t, the important message here is female strength, self-worth and the knowledge that we deserve equality and respect. Rebecca continues “this whole business has served to remind me that I am a strong, capable person who is now free; and no victim.”
Additionally, she comments that, “it’s important also to recognise in these situations those who hold power over you are insecure and fragile, and their need for control comes from a place of vulnerability.”
As pointed out by Comparison Coach Lucy Sheridan, “The confident woman that is in all of us has stepped forward in this response. We each and every one of us have this potential sense of empowerment which lies within us. We are each worthy of a relationship which sees us to be ourselves and fully equal.”
Lucy emphasises, “for Rebecca to take the narrative is so powerful. She is the author of her own story and she won’t be a casualty of this. This is a rallying cry to mobilise women to think about their value, and there will be a ripple effect”.
Breaking down her ex’s controlling actions, Rebecca will, without a doubt, have clarified unacceptable behaviour for so many women in a similar situation at the same time.
Offering hope, strength and inspiration, this statement is the epitome of female empowerment. We can take heart from her impressive articulation following a frankly horrendous time.
Finishing with “Despite everything, I hope he gets what he wants from this. I’m not sorry I took the cat though”, Rebecca has been met by a round of applause from us here at GLAMOUR.
And, that is how it’s done. Thank you, Rebecca, for reminding us how strong we all are and using your story to spread this important message.
Standing ovation coming right up.
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